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Sex Coaching for People Pleasers

1:1 coaching is for anyone who prioritizes their partner's needs at the expense of their own.

Ella offers 1:1 coaching for anyone struggling with people pleasing in the bedroom.

 

Sex Coaching for People Pleasers is designed specifically for those of us who prioritize other people's needs and desires over our own, especially when it comes to sex.

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In 1:1 coaching, Ella works with people to discover their likes and dislikes, learn new communication techniques, and overcome common challenges associated with people pleasing, like feeling guilty saying no, experiencing intense self criticism, or even pushing through pain and discomfort.

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Coaching might be for you if you: 

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  • Prioritize your partner's needs at the expense of your own

  • Feel guilty saying no

  • Don't know how to ask for what you want in bed

  • Are still learning your likes and dislikes 

  • See the goal of sex as satisfying your partner

  • Don't know how to respond when a partner asks "what would feel good for you right now?"

  • Go along with whatever your partner wants 

  • Fake orgasms

  • Push past pain and discomfort 

  • Find that the desire to be liked drives your sexual decisions

To book a coaching session, fill out the form below. 

Sex Coaching for  People Pleasers

Sex Coaching for People Pleasers is designed specifically for those of us who spend more time thinking about our partner's sexual needs than our own.

1:1 coaching is for anyone who prioritizes their partner's needs at the expense of their own.

Who is coaching for?
 

1:1 coaching is for people who: ​

  • Feel guilty saying no

  • Struggle to ask for you want in bed

  • Fake orgasms

  • Are still learning your likes and dislikes 

  • Forget to consider if you're even enjoying sex

  • Prioritize your partner's satisfaction at the expense of your own

  • Get stuck in your head about your sexual performance

  • Push past pain and discomfort 

What do you do in coaching? 

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In 1:1 coaching, Ella works with people to discover their likes and dislikes, learn new communication techniques, and overcome challenges commonly associated with people pleasing, like feeling guilty saying no, experiencing intense self criticism, or even pushing through pain and discomfort.

Coaching

Sex Coaching for  People Pleasers

1:1 coaching is for anyone who prioritizes their partner's needs at the expense of their own.

Ella offers 1:1 coaching for anyone struggling with people pleasing in the bedroom. Sex Coaching for People Pleasers is designed specifically for people who spend more time thinking about your partner's sexual needs than your own.

What do you get out of coaching?​

​

In 1:1 coaching, Ella helps people discover their likes and dislikes, learn new communication techniques, and overcome challenges commonly associated with people pleasing, like feeling guilty saying no, experiencing intense self criticism, or even pushing through pain and discomfort.

Who is coaching for?
 

1:1 coaching is for people who: ​

  • Feel guilty saying no

  • Struggle to ask for what you want in bed

  • Fake orgasms

  • Get stuck in your head about your sexual performance

  • Are still learning your likes and dislikes 

  • Forget to consider if you're even enjoying sex

  • Prioritize your partner's satisfaction at the expense of your own

  • Push past pain and discomfort 

Coaching

Sex Coaching for  People Pleasers

1:1 coaching is for anyone who prioritizes their partner's needs at the expense of their own.

Ella offers 1:1 coaching for anyone struggling with people pleasing in the bedroom. Sex Coaching for People Pleasers is designed specifically for those of us who prioritize other people's needs and desires over our own, especially when it comes to sex.

​

In 1:1 coaching, Ella works with people to discover their likes and dislikes, learn new communication techniques, and overcome common challenges associated with people pleasing, like feeling guilty saying no, experiencing intense self criticism, or even pushing through pain and discomfort.

​

1:1 coaching is for people who: 

​​

  • Prioritize your partner's needs at the expense of your own

  • Feel guilty saying no

  • Don't know how to ask for what you want in bed

  • Are still learning your likes and dislikes 

  • See the goal of sex as satisfying your partner

  • Don't know how to respond when a partner asks "what would feel good for you right now?"

  • Go along with whatever your partner wants 

  • Fake orgasms

  • Push past pain and discomfort 

  • Find that the desire to be liked drives your sexual decisions

FAQ

How long is each coaching session?

Each session is 50 minutes. 

How much does coaching cost? ​

Each session is paid on a sliding scale from $80 - $140. You pay what you're able to. If cost is a barrier, please reach out. 

How many coaching session do you need?

Most people resolve the issue they sought coaching for in three to six session. People who come with a specific question sometimes resolve the issue in one session.

Is coaching the same as therapy?

No, 1:1 coaching is not therapy and is not intended to be a substitute for therapy.

Is there nudity in sex coaching?

My 1:1 coaching does not include nudity at any point.

What's your background in, Ella? 

Ella has over 200 hours of training in comprehensive, evidence-based sex education and has been a sexuality educator for four years. Before becoming a freelance sexuality educator, Ella trained youth-serving professionals (think: teachers, clinicians) how to teach comprehensive sexuality education to young people. Ella believes that learning never stops and has, and continues to attend, several trainings and conferences on human sexuality, anti-oppression framework, and topics like body liberation.  Here are some of the trainings Ella has attended:  Sexuality Liberators and Movers, 2020 & 2022 Reproductive Justice for Black Lives, 2020 Race & Kink, 2020, 2021, 2022 Inclusive Sex Ed: Intersex People and Periods, 2021 The Sex Educator Super Starter, 2021 Body Liberation 101, 2021 Exploring Gender Affirming Sex, 2021 Examining Whiteness In The Therapy Room, 2021 Made It About Race! An Intersectional Approach To Teaching Consent, 2021 All About No: Reframing Rejection, 2022 Asexual & Aromantic Intimacy Workshop, 2022 White Girls Interrupting, 2023 Racial and Social Justice 202, 2023

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Sex Coaching for People Pleasers

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Sex Coaching
for
People Pleasers

I offer 1:1 coaching for anyone struggling with people pleasing in the bedroom. This coaching is designed specifically for people who see their needs and desires as an afterthought, especially when it comes to sex.

​

In 1:1 coaching, people discover their likes and dislikes, learn new communication techniques, and overcome common challenges associated with people pleasing, like feeling guilty saying no, experiencing intense self criticism, or even pushing through pain and discomfort.

​

Coaching might be for you if you: 

​​

  • Prioritize your partner's needs at the expense of your own

  • Feel guilty saying no

  • Feel uncomfortable asking for what you want 

  • Are still learning your likes and dislikes 

  • See the goal of sex as satisfying your partner

  • Don't know how to respond when a partner asks "what would feel good for you right now?"

  • Go along with whatever your partner wants 

  • Fake orgasms

  • Push past pain and discomfort 

​

Sex Coaching
for
People Pleasers

I offer 1:1 coaching for anyone struggling with people pleasing in the bedroom. This coaching is designed specifically for people who see their needs and desires as an afterthought, especially when it comes to sex.

​

In 1:1 coaching, people discover their likes and dislikes, learn new communication techniques, and overcome common challenges associated with people pleasing, like feeling guilty saying no, experiencing intense self criticism, or even pushing through pain and discomfort.

​

Coaching might be for you if you: 

​​

  • Prioritize your partner's needs at the expense of your own

  • Feel guilty saying no

  • Feel uncomfortable asking for what you want 

  • Are still learning your likes and dislikes 

  • See the goal of sex as satisfying your partner

  • Don't know how to respond when a partner asks "what would feel good for you right now?"

  • Go along with whatever your partner wants 

  • Fake orgasms

  • Push past pain and discomfort 

​

To book a coaching session, fill out the form below. 

Sex Coaching
for
People Pleasers

I offer 1:1 coaching for anyone struggling with people pleasing in the bedroom. This coaching is designed specifically for people who see their needs and desires as an afterthought, especially when it comes to sex.

​

In 1:1 coaching, people discover their likes and dislikes, learn new communication techniques, and overcome common challenges associated with people pleasing, like feeling guilty saying no, experiencing intense self criticism, or even pushing through pain and discomfort.

​

Coaching might be for you if you: 

​​

  • Prioritize your partner's needs at the expense of your own

  • Feel guilty saying no

  • Feel uncomfortable asking for what you want 

  • Are still learning your likes and dislikes 

  • See the goal of sex as satisfying your partner

  • Don't know how to respond when a partner asks "what would feel good for you right now?"

  • Go along with whatever your partner wants 

  • Fake orgasms

  • Push past pain and discomfort 

​

Sex Coaching
for
People Pleasers

I offer 1:1 coaching for anyone struggling with people pleasing in the bedroom. This coaching is designed specifically for people who see their needs and desires as an afterthought, especially when it comes to sex.

​

In 1:1 coaching, people discover their likes and dislikes, learn new communication techniques, and overcome common challenges associated with people pleasing, like feeling guilty saying no, experiencing intense self criticism, or even pushing through pain and discomfort.

​

Coaching might be for you if you: 

​​

  • Prioritize your partner's needs at the expense of your own

  • Feel guilty saying no

  • Feel uncomfortable asking for what you want 

  • Are still learning your likes and dislikes 

  • See the goal of sex as satisfying your partner

  • Don't know how to respond when a partner asks "what would feel good for you right now?"

  • Go along with whatever your partner wants 

  • Fake orgasms

  • Push past pain and discomfort 

​

To book a coaching session, fill out the form below. 

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